All of the news I’ve gotten about this entire debacle has been via Twitter and good Lord EVERYONE has had something to say about it. Which is cool, whatever, but some of what I’ve seen has really annoyed me.
He’s cheated on his wife. With a lot of women, apparently. Okay. That is awful of him, assuming that his marriage was a happy one and he’s just an insatiable horn dog. He decided that the hot piece of ass he married wasn’t enough hot ass. Bad, bad Tiger. Honestly though? You guys don’t know what happened. Their relationship is private, and you don’t know what their marriage has been like. Just like when they were first married and everyone made that grand assumption that because she was a nanny she’d hit the jackpot and married him for his money. You have absolutely no idea. About anything going on their life, besides what TMZ says. I mean of course we will all form opinions on it, and he should have been prepared for that, because he’s in the public eye – it’s what happens when you’re famous and rich – but it’s the finality of everyone’s opinions that bugs me. She should leave him, he should lose his endorsement deals, he’s a dog, she’s a saint, I hope he burns in hell and she takes all of his money – those sorts of things. Wow, I could have sworn that we’ve all made mistakes, we’ve all placed ourselves in situations that would make another person’s stomach turn. You wouldn’t think that by looking at some of the tweets I’ve seen.
BUT WHAT REALLY PISSES MY FUCKING GUTS are those that are laughing at what Elin Woods did, but if it was reversed would be boycotting golf itself until Tiger was banned. Those same people that are counting off his women and wondering if he has an STD. Or saying “whoa, that’s awesome of his wife,! I would have done the same thing! If my husband had cheated on me I would have gone after him with golf clubs too! I love it! Don’t lay down and take that, girl!” You are all some ridiculous fucking hypocrites. Seriously, so, like I don’t understand you AT ALL.
What if the situation had been reversed and Elin had cheated on Tiger, and then Tiger chased her out of their house, beating her with golf clubs, beating her car as she tried to escape him, even half passed out of pain pills for an injury, causing her to crash? Or what if he’d gotten out of his car after the crash to defend himself and hit her? With his fists or the golf club or a tree branch or a puppy or whatever? I doubt if ANY of you that are making light of what she did would be on his side.
Let’s put this in comparison with another high profile domestic incident of this year: Chris Brown and Rihanna. Chris Brown was boycotted, he was determined to be unworthy of any adulation, he was shunned by everyone, everywhere. He was a monster, a villain, there was no possible excuse for what he did, there was no reason, and even now many feel that there is no coming back from what he did. That he should lose it all.
Do you see the problem with that? I do. It was my issue all along. Now, if you keep up with black gossip sites, which most of you probably don’t, you’ll know that Chris Brown and Rihanna were rumored to have a really volatile relationship – before he whooped her ass. It was noted that she had jumped on him before, unable to control her temper, during public events, to which Chris responded by trying to escape or pushing her away from him. Which is why it never sat well with me that she never did anything at all to provoke his attack back in February, whether it was giving him herpes or hitting him first or whatever. I thought it must have been something, but that’s speculation on my part, just as it is everyone else’s. None of that mattered though: once it was revealed that he hit her, he was fucking lynched.
Why isn’t the same thing happening to Elin Woods? Why is no one saying SHE’S a monster? I mean, there’s something hilariously ironic about her going after the most famous golf player in the world with golf clubs, but other than that? There’s nothing funny about this. Can I see myself doing exactly what she did in that situation? OF COURSE. If you’ve been reading me for a while, you’ll know that I’ve done the same (fists not golf clubs) for a lot less reason. But do I think I deserved preferential treatment because I don’t have a dick or because I felt that I had good reason? NO.
If violence is always wrong, if it’s never justified, that should remain true no matter if it’s a woman scorned or just a guy with a temper doing the assaulting. You need to decide how you feel about domestic violence and fucking stick with it.
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a-fucking-men! there is so much truth in this (and all of your previous topics), i agree with you 100%. society has this fucked up way of justifying why it’s alright for a woman to do certain things & why it isn’t alright for her to do others. (same goes for men). this is why i always say ‘i hate people’ on twitter, it’s these people you’re blogging about that i’m talking about. idiots.
Yes, yes and YES.
Fucking hypocritical asses.
And seriously, it amazes me that so many people care, or are even surprised that he cheated. I just don’t give a fuck. Not my problem, not my life.
I think my only shock, is that anyone is shocked at all.
You take anyone with that much fame, that much money, with any material thing they like at their fingertips, of course that person is going to get bored with what they already have. The rich and famous are going to have to throw in some necrophilia or something to catch my tabloid attention. Having not fucked the man myself, I truly don’t care.
Well said. I hate the hypocrisy.
OMG Finally somebody with a freaking awesome response! I completely agree, pick a damn side on the issue instead of straddling that lovely fence!
I agree with you, Maria. Tiger Woods is a golfer. What he does after he leaves the golf course is nobody’s business but his and Elin’s. Period.
Bravo.
I always have to remind myself that not everyone understands the complexity of domestic violence. And the ignorant just LOVE to use the internet as an open forum to say some really STUPID things.
I could honestly care less if he slept with 100 women. All of it is a waste of time.
However? A puppy? Now THAT is funny stuff. Because you KNOW PETA would have had a FIELD day with that.
It’s so much easier to make sweeping statements about a situation about which we really don’t have all the facts, than it is to THINK about it.
Nice thinking.
December 10, 2009 at 3:34 pm
That’s been my thoughts all along, and why I haven’t much mentioned it. The simple fact is that she should be charged with domestic assault, as much as he should consider not paying her off. Or whatever. Personally, I think that if you hand a large sum of money to the person who just went rage-tastic on you, you’re definitely in store for more heinous behaviour – it’s an unconscious acceptance/reinforcement you’ve just provided.
Finally someone who actually understands! I mean people act like they are saints and have the damn answers for other people’s lives. No one knows what was going on in either situation and maybe him and his wife had an open relationship. Who knows… He is a man with unlimited money and fame and he’s expected not to cheat? For goodness sake he’s a MAN
Agreed, wholeheartedly.
You know what’s funny? This whole time I’ve been saying that I don’t care what Tiger Woods is up to because he’s not MY man. Word.
Hell. Yes. An attack is an attack.
That said, I do think that a man should be forgiven (to an extent) if he finds out that his wife has been cheating on him and he flips out for a few minutes. Just as a woman would. Just as Elin did. She’ll be forgiven (even if he tries to charge her with assault) because she’s a delicate little woman (despite the strength that was exhibited in her attack on her husband.)
I do feel bad for them all. Especially their kids. It’s bad enough without having to live through the media frenzy…
You know what? The whole situation just makes me sad. It’s sad that it happened at all but it’s even more sad how it’s playing out in the media, and those kids will have all that coverage hanging over their heads forever, and I don’t care, black or white, man or woman, the whole thing just sucks big balls for all of them.
I was one of those people, and you are totally right, as was someone that pointed that out to me on twitter. You’re totally right. I’ve completely reversed myself on this one.
Dude, YES!!! YES. YES. YES.
I’ve kept quiet about the whole thing because I like Tiger and sure I think it sucks that this has all come out, but we know NOTHING.
Thank you for posting this!
Great post. I am tired of all the talk about this. They should all get over it and get a life.
Nice point about the hypocrisy too.
Thank you for saying all of this. Could not agree more. And seriously, get this crap off the national news. None of our damn business, people.
I am so tired of the Tiger thing that I change the channel every time I hear about it. And that was hard last week we were in Florida. Let him and Elin deal with it in court or counseling or whatever. I do feel bad for the kids and hope they have family to help them through this.
Are you in my head? I have been thinking the same thing about this woman – domestic violence is domestic violence. Hell, if he had gone after her with golf clubs right now he’d be looking at assault with a deadly weapon.
I honestly don’t care who he is doing, he is not my man, have no idea what is going on in their relationship but domestic violence is problematic. I don’t believe in double standards.
It is such a double standard, isn’t it? I haven’t really talked about the subject much because everyone else is talking about it enough already. And I don’t think all of this will never make things right, or may even make things worse, especially for his beautiful kids.
Hope you’re well, sweetie.
I agree, spousal abuse is spousal abuse. In my marriage we do not hit. This is as much a deal breaker as cheating. Of course if my wife left me she wouldn’t get the deal that Tiger’s wife is going to get and just knowing that maybe makes her think. On the other hand if my wife stood to get millions to throw me out she’d just be laughing at my mess and calling her lawyer. I also don’t frankly care about golf and know that these guys with lots of money attract women. Temptation can be a hard thing for a guy but Tiger actually saught these women again after the first time.
What she said!
FUCKING SERIOUS!!
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