As a mother of a child with a birth injury that will impair her abilities for the rest of her life I cannot imagine putting my baby’s life or well being in more danger than necessary for whatever reason. I see no justification, no validation, no reason and no excuse.
Get off your high horse and get a fucking midwife.
(I blame you Mommy, for the fact that your son will be physically and mentally retarded. You knew better. You too dad. I hope you both are happy. Fucking crunchy granola wanna be pseudo hippy dumbfucks. THERE WAS A REASON YOU HAD A C-SECTION WITH #1!!)
*Edit -08.07.08 @ 9am: I have a friend. One that I fell out of touch with until recently. I met her in a malpractice lawyer’s office a few years ago. She was considering suing her first child’s obstetrician because of the child’s issues. Something about the doctor waited too long to perform an emergency c-section, I’ve forgotten the details. But she should not have been delivering a child vaginally.
In the time that we lost touch, she’d somehow gotten in her head that it was alllll the doctor’s fault, and that she, just like any other woman, was capable of birthing a child without intervention. But she went as far as to decide she was going to do it alone. Her pussy of a husband went along with it. And the same thing happened, only by the time they realized it and got her to the hospital, the baby had already suffered brain damage from lack of oxygen or some shit. I feel no empathy for her, or her husband. She knew the risks, but decided for whatever reason to go a different route and her child suffered. Idiot.
She above even the ridiculously naive women that do this and take for granted their healthy children. She should have known better. She’s suffered through complications of a birth gone wrong with her baby before.
*Edit – 08.20.09 @ 11:40pm: The baby died from the complications stemming from it’s homebirth and not receiving medical intervention soon enough at less than one month old. I feel the need to add this on, being as this blog post must come up in google searches for homebirth or something because it’s still getting comments.
And also, there’s a follow up post here.
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Just curious…where did this come from? Did I miss some news?
The latest from Mr Lady…The Post That Will Get My Ass Kicked, or Served With Divorce Papers
Whoa… people do that? I had no idea. I always assumed that the ladies who opted for homebirths had midwives in attendance.
The latest from Missives From Suburbia…Just Wash Them Already
I love that you put the copyright on the feed and that I can read the whole thing in my reader. And, I still showed up here. :)
I also love the idea of midwives attending a low-risk home births near a hospital, but other home birth scenarios scare me.
The latest from Maggie’s Mind…Dumber Than a Pack of Sausage
I am confused, too.
But I also agree! AND, it’s why old, antique dining tables freak me out – people used to give BIRTH on those things! Ew.
The latest from Sybil Law…Et Tu, Blogger?
Ah, dammit.
I have an old, antique dining table…
The latest from Busy Mom…Summer. Please report back to my office.
That was a blast of aggression. Not unusual for you but where the hell did it come from?
The latest from Miss…It’s What We Deserve…
Maybe a linky is missing? So we know what you’re referring too? But I agree anyway!
The latest from Shania…Is there a doctor in the house?
I am a fan of medical technology. I don’t judge people who take the crunchy route (except the morons you mentioned), but give me a doctor and all the latest medical equipment, thanks very much.
The latest from dysfunctional mom…Wordless Wednesday – Hope
I had thought about how nice a home birth would be. (Assisted, of course, and we’re 10 mins or less from the hospital.)
But holy hot damn was I SO glad with my OB/hospital birth choice when I landed in the hospital at 30 weeks, eventually giving birth to a 32 weeker who stayed in the same hospital’s Level III NICU for four weeks.
Yeah.
Bitches die for this shit. (STILL!!) So do babies. (STILL!!!) It ain’t no joke y’all.
The latest from VDog…Wordless Geek
Not quite sure where that came from but people should certainly take proper precautions. Childbirth still kills people.
The latest from Lilacspecs…Skinpee
A midwife, doula, doctor on call if things go wrong…
The latest from JCK…We will soon be gone from this place
wow. i also am confused by what prompted this. but … ok!
How utterly ridiculous! Individuals choosing to do such things are complete idiots.
The latest from Renee aka MekhisMom…Got Milk!
wow… am I missing a link somewhere?
I’m all in favor of midwife assisted stay out of the fucking hospital births…. but seriously? Unassisted? What the fuck? That’s just stupid.
In chorus with everyone else, where the heck did this stem from? I want to know the back story so I can be properly pissed off!
The latest from Jenee…I’m back!!!
I feel as if I’m missing something here (not unusual).
However, anyone who doesn’t do everything possible to ensure the safety of their child’s arrival,whether it’s homebirth or hospital birth, sucks the big one.
XOXO
Ugh. Why would someone do this? I am curious to know more about it.
The latest from ohmommy…Remind me NEVER to buy People magazine again
When we were expecting our daughter, our birth plan was simple: Get the baby out alive and safely. As it happened, a medical emergency forced a c-section 3 days before our scheduled delivery date. Without hospital technology, well, it would all have ended in tears.
Birth has too many variables to be done unassisted…unless you’re stuck in an elevator.
The latest from Charlie…4600 Memory Lane
I deliver food babies without assistance.
The latest from Avitable…OMGLOLWOOT!!
How ridiculous. She knew the risks, her husband knew the risks, and they did this any motherfucking way!? NO SYMPATHY.
The latest from Mika…What in the hot hell?
My cousin delivered her first child in a tub in HER LIVING ROOM! She did have a midwife and she was monitored but they are over 35 minutes from a hospital! I don’t care how assisted your birth is, if your baby comes out needing help and you are 35 minutes from a hospital- by your own choice because you want to give birth in a tub in YOUR LIVING ROOM- you have to endure the consequences.
That is not something I would want to live with!
Thats her own fault. Poor baby. I would never try anything like that because I would be so afraid of something going wrong. And she was only concerned about herself because why would you even chance anything happening to your baby? What an idiot!
The latest from Tiffany…Food Retardation
I agree; even with medical interevention, there is no guarantee that we are going to be guaranteed a positive outcome when we have babies, and to have a previous section and then choose to have a baby unassisted at home is the heighth of irreponsibility. Ugh.
The latest from Kori…100th Post-100 Things
What a shame. Some people just are not competent. At all.
It is easy to be misled into thinking that something is completely a doctors fault these days. There is plenty of info on the internet convincing people of all kinds of things they want to believe.
I feel really badly for this woman and her husband. I’m sure they thought they were doing what was best. I’m sure they put time and emotions into doing research, but they got bad information.
I feel badly for them. And I’m sure they don’t need anyone else to tell them that they screwed up. They will most likely spend the rest of their lives blaming themselves for what happened.
The latest from Kathryn…WW- Fishing Buddies
August 7, 2008 at 10:44 am
And you are a much, much more compassionate person than I am, K.
She knew…when we talked the most, she knew that the only thing her OB had done wrong was not give her a cesarean from the get go. She knew that she needed one because childbirth was dangerous for her child.
She has a son that’s almost 6, but on the developmental level of a 3 year old. And for her to make this decision, fully aware of the risks…I just cannot feel bad for her. At all. They should blame themselves.
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