Say it with me now – “Homophobic”. And now – “Stereotypical”. Or maybe just “Ignorant.”
My younger brother is going into the Air Force this fall. Yes, the gay one – he’s the only one I have. Yesterday he received a certified letter in the mail from his recruitment office saying that there was something wrong with his physical results and that he needed to come in and discuss it with the doctor that had examined him since it could be serious and was of a personal nature.
My mother found out about it, and I sat there as she discussed it with my grandmother.
“It’s of a personal nature.” she said, eyes flashing maliciously.
“Do you think that they know he’s like that?” my grandmother questioned back. “I mean can they tell looking back there?”
“I’m sure they can,” my mom answered. “They can tell when a girl has had sex and everything.”
“Well, he’s out there doing that stuff. It might be H.I.V.” whispered my grandmother.
“Could be, I wouldn’t be surprised.” said my mom, rolling her eyes and crossing her arms.
“OH MY GOOOOOODD.” I moaned, and walked out.
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UGH.
What is this – 1950?!
The latest from Sybil Law…School Daze
sad thing is there are people my age that think this way. Still…
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I can’t imagine the military *checks* for that sort of thing. Yeah, they do the finger up the butt check in men, but it’s supposed to be don’t ask, don’t tell (which fucking pisses me off anyway) and for all they know, he’s just kinky with his woman in the bedroom.
I hope everything is OK with your brother, I think whatever they found is not likely to be related to his sexual orientation and if it is, well, just know you have a whole slew of us ready to be pissed off about it with you, including an ex AF girl.
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I hope you understand my last comment was supposed to be more supportive than it sounded. Long week, ya know?
The latest from Natalie…Love at first line (okay, that should really say second line – but that doesn’t have the same ring)
I think it is just ignorance from lack of understanding.
Of course, anyone who thinks that someone could tell if you’re gay by inspecting your ass just makes me laugh.
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*sigh*
I’ve got nothing else to say other than that.
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geez. wtf.
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Oy.
My gay brother and I support you in your response.
OY. ARGH. UGH.
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Doesn’t that way of thinking make you happy to be raising socially aware and open-minded children? Think of the potential the world has twenty years from now, with our childrens generation leading it.
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I bet it ends up being just a simple thing. I hope so.
Family “stuff” is hard.
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I bet it’s the eye exam.
Um. Seriously. Do they really think that he’s got a loose ass or something?
Sigh… people and their thoughts.
Hope he’s all right.
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Sounds like some of my family.
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“Yeah they CAN tell by looking, but only if he was lucky enough to have a really fucking HUGE one” should have been your reply…
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I wouldn’t worry until it’s time to worry. Could be he’s got bad ankles…*shrug* You never know.
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My family is the same way. They don’t MEAN it maliciously, really. It’s more of a casual racism, the need to spotlight the race or ethnicity of everyone whether or not it’s relevant to the subject at hand. Like my mother will say, “I work with this REALLY nice woman….Black, you know…and we had lunch together yesterday…”
I don’t get that.
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Oh geez!
Hope its nothing serious with your brother! Let us know!
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Hope your brother is alright…I would have had to walk out on that convo too. Just because he’s gay doesn’t mean he has HIV. Damn.
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Sad.
I hope it isn’t anything serious, and joining the Air Force? Wow. That would be my preferred branch as well.
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HA…I don’t think I’d ever heard someone say “they could ‘check’for that sort of thing” but it sounds funny none the less. I hate the stereotyping stuff, but unfortunately it’s out there. Hope the thing with your brother isn’t too serious.
Pretty cool blog, will definitely be back!
~K
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I know it’s not even the same realm but when I told my grandmother that my new graduated from the School of Education sister just got engaged, my grandmother replied “Well there goes her teaching career before it even started.”
Like it’s the turn of the century and teachers have to be unmarried.
He’s a brave soul to be joining the military now. And isn’t everything having to do with a physical “of a personal nature”?
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That’s WTF I said. Of course it’s personal. It’s his fucking physical.
My mom’s a nut.
This made me paranoid. I wonder if my doctor can look at my ass and tell if I’ve had oral sex.
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depends on how big his jaw was…
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My step-kids and your mother & grandmother have lots in common.I am horrified on a regular basis by the way they think and the things that come out of their mouth.Can’t wait until the day they figure out their own father is bisexual. That’ll be fun!
Hope it turns out to be nothing
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Hmmm… What do you say to that?
Things that make you tear your hair out.
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Do the gays leave behind a geo-cache up the rear?
Does it require a GPS to find?
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Yeeeeeeah, you are a better woman than I for walking out…
Hope things turn out okay for him!
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*sigh* I think your reaction was the only logical one. What can you really do, you know?
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Oh it could be anything…. jeez. I’m proud of you for just rolling your eyes. I don’t have that kind of restraint…
I am glad your brother has you.
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Oh jeez I think I would have puked. Also I thought you wrote “can tell when a girl has sex with everything” and I had a nice long pause trying to figure out what that meant.
Hope your bro is okay and cleared to join up, although I think I’d have a heart attack and die if my little brother joined the military. Cause I worry too much.
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Family… they’re people you probably wouldn’t choose as friends in real life, but are stuck with forever.
:)
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I hope everything turns out okay…
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Oh dear Jesus. Do the warn other boys against hanging out with him because they might catch “The Gay”?
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Christ. sometimes i kid myself as to what world i´m living in.
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Oh good grief.
I am proud to announce that my soldier husband recently told me that the biggest change he’d experienced as a result of marrying me was becoming truly okay with other people’s homosexuality. Back in the day, he would have outed a gay subordinate, ending his/her military career, but didn’t even consider it when such a situation came up recently. I’m very proud of him.
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Wow. My mother and grandmother make me have to get up and walk away all the time.
P.S. I left you a little blog bling on my post today. Smiles!
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oh GAWD. feh feh feh.
could we BE any more prehistoric????????
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ignorance sister
b safe this weekend
and
Did Obama do enough to win? Did his speech convert any of the 20% I have spoke of previously or was he preaching to the choir?
just asking because thats y asked what happens if obama looses? and questioned the Biden selection
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W.T.F.?!! This is exactly why my gay cousin is afraid to come out to the rest of the family. Ignorance.
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Oh, have mercy!
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Dude. First off military doesn’t even really CARE anymore. You might get an asshole recruiter or something who has their own personal agenda, but it’s no longer a rule. Not even the don’t ask, don’t tell thing. They changed that. So, whether you are homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual – they mostly (as a whole) don’t care. Not saying you won’t encounter jackasses in the military, but that’s life and that’s their own issues they need to sort through.
Just sayin.
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Hope he’s OK, not sick or anything, maybe just soemthing that can be corrected like his eye sight?
It’s so sad your mom thinks/talks like that about her own son. I’m sure she loves him but I’m also sure what he really needs is her support. So sad. So glad he has you though!
Uggg, just uggg.
Hope he’s okay though.
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I laughed, I’m sorry. Mr B’s mum is very like this. I hope you’re brother is ok though. My cousin is in the RAF and she loves it.
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So, does your mom think your brother has a “broken anal hymen?”
Duh.
Ok, anal sex in moderation is, according to a few medical sites, good for anal health. This is a muscle, not a piece of saranwrap. The docs can’t really tell anything about a person’s sexual orientation, besides, recruiters have quotas. No way in hell is a recruiter bringing down a poolee to meps that he think won’t clear. All they look for in processing is that you aren’t diseased, can lift your own feet, etc.. oh, and the duck walk. I think they do that just to fuck with a bunch of dudes in their underwear. Bastards.
Actually your mom and grandma are both misinformed-unless there is signifigant bruising and/or tearing, a doctor cannot tell whether a guy OR a girl is sexually active. I am glad your brother has you because with other family like that, his life must be hell. And hwile I hate to cast aspersions on anyone’s family, that fucking sucks.
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Oh, WOW.
:(
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Well for what its worth, I hope it is not truly serious and something like flat feet or some other reason for all of the hush hush.
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apparently no one has told them that it is more likely that YOU have HIV than him :/
young poc are the fastest growing HIV pop (except in this county for some reason, and I haven’t figured out why yet. I suspect the stats are skewed somehow)
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