Understatement of the year.
He took my girls from me this weekend.
Short version?
He accused me of domestic assault after an argument Saturday evening and had me put in jail for the weekend. I was released Monday. No, this has never happened before[I mean we've fought an enormous amount but the law was never involved], I’ve never been arrested or handcuffed or whatever – I am a purely law abiding citizen. I find it almost comical that he can accuse me of hitting him when I don’t even spank my children but whatever…
He put a restraining order out on me, stating that I was an abuser and a danger physically and emotionally to him and to our daughters. All of this because I told him I was taking them and moving out. He knows that the only way for him to really hurt me, after 5 years of utter and unadulterated bullshit, is to infringe on my relationship with my babies. They have never been with him more than one night alone, and never away from me more than a weekend.
That is including our 2 year separation – when we were in completely different towns, from 12/04 – 5/07. And being as my residence has never been fully with him these past months, and we were still in a transitional maybe/maybe not mode….
It’s horrible, and I’m in an inexplicable amount of pain, but I’m dealing.
It’s very hard to know that someone that’s supposed to love me is willing to do something to this extent to hurt me. I wonder what I did to make him hate me this much. There had to have been something, right?
On top of it all, he’s asking for spousal and child support from me, and being I was a stay at home mom for the better part of our entire marriage, it just epitomizes how vindictive and evil he is. He also has claimed possession of the car which is mine, and he has a permanently revoked license so he can’t drive it anyway.
My court date for the restraining order/custody is tomorrow. I’m trying to stay calm and not flip out and I have a great group of friends supporting me and making sure that doesn’t happen. The simple assault/domestic violence court date is February 11th.
Anyway, I just thought I’d update you all. Hopefully I’m be typing around Goobie sitting on my lap and The Bella leaning on my arm as usual tomorrow when court is over.
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