“If I lost my limbs, if I went bald, if I became as big as her, if I was unmercifully tortured by Ichi the Killer to the point of disfigurement?”
I’ve asked that sort of question before. Jokingly, but with serious undertones. I mean, if I asked and he’d said no, I’m sure I’d have been reevaluating the relationship. I know many other people [women, mainly] who have asked some variation of it as well. I’d guess it was a pretty common thing.
I believe that you just can’t answer that question 100%. It’s kind of like wondering if you were that woman in the Tsunami that had to choose between her children because she could only hang onto one what you would have done in her place. You just don’t know. It could be just me though, maybe others know themselves and their feelings for their significant others well enough to be able to answer without contemplative hesitation.
Look at how happy she is. No bride would risk ruining her wedding day photos with that cheesy Kool-Aid grin if it wasn’t genuine. Her fiancee was injured during a stint in Afghanistan just a month after they were engaged, and they had only known each other for a few months before he proposed. Regardless…
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Wow… this is just… wow. I want to know a love like that, but sometimes I really think I dont.
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July 20, 2008 at 12:33 am
I really seriously didn’t think stuff like that happened.
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Thank you for posting this, what a WONDERFUL story, really beautiful and inspiring. Also, did you SEE the picture of their cake? How cool!
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July 24, 2008 at 4:04 pm
This post was scheduled on the wrong day, because I’m an idiot. So I took it down and now it’s back up on the day it belongs. Sorry for the mishap!
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Indeed, that IS love, and a very touching photo.
Wow! All I can say is he either drives a really nice car or has something extra special under the hood if you know what I mean…jk…this kind of love does exist,,,it’s the only kind I know, I only hope he feels the same.
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We should all be so lucky as to find a love like that.
A very touching story on many levels.
Maybe I’m blowing smoke up my own ass or sound like I’m puffing myself up, but seriously, with no hesitation whatsoever, I would love my sweetheart no matter how he looked, and probably even more so to come through such tragedy without bitterness. That line of the article perhaps touched me most of all because of the strength of character it shows.
I’ve watched really horseshit physical things happen to people I’ve loved that have drastically impacted appearance and abilities, and I never loved them any less. If anything, I’ve loved them more.
I hesitate to even leave this comment, but screw it. Here it is. I won’t pretend to be as I am not.
I’m with you M, I can’t say for sure 100%. I’m one of those that just has to be put in that situation. Now would I love you if you lost your limbs, went bald, and became a fat ass beyond a fat ass? Sure, as long as I could change your name to Tick. http://immoralmatriarch.com/wp-content/plugins/smilies-themer/Julianus/20×20-big_smile.png
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Ha, I just noticed the new smilies. How come we don’t have all of those on CFP? Fix that please. http://immoralmatriarch.com/wp-content/plugins/smilies-themer/Julianus/20×20-choler.png
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If I were that Tsunami lady choosing btwn the two kids. All three of us would die b/c I’d go over with them. I wouldn’t be able to live w/ myself if I had to choose one over the other any way. So I’d just drop w/em, try to hold them as tight as I could, and hope for the best.
And as for the disfigurement. As vain as I am … I still wouldn’t trip at all.
What an inspirational story; and an unbelievable love. We need to read more stories like that, especially in the news.
Thanks for posting it, Maria
y’know I might ask that question to some degree, but the question I would love to ask Mr.T-but never will-would be if he could love me if I turned into my mom. But that pic above-love.
Wow, thanks for posting this. Truly, ‘True Love’.
Regarding the woman in the tsunami, have you ever seen the movie “Sophie’s Choice” with Meryl Streep? She’s forced to choose which child will live and which will die.
Oh, for crap’s sake. I’m crying here! This post made my heart burst.
I meant to come over yesterday after reading this in my feedreader. What a guy, what a woman. Wow. I also remember when you posted about it before. It’s true though, how far and deep does our devotion and love go?
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R and I have conversations like this all the time since he’ll be deployed soon. I tell him I don’t care if he comes back with no arms and no legs, he’s mine and I’ll love him forever. So many don’t come back, to have the one you love live thru something like that, that’s why she’s smiling.
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That is fabulous. And what love SHOULD be.
I would like to be unique in my response, but all I can say is WOW.
True love really is blind…
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It is good to know love that special exists.
Congrats to the happy couple. I wish them many years of happiness together.
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pardon my shallowness on a very touching post but i hopped over from another blog and i’m dying to know how you got kicked out of a mommy group. i. love. it.
That is a fabulous photo. They really do look so happy. Good luck to them and thanks for sharing this.
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actually, I think the major injury/disfigurement sort of thing may be easier for many people to get past in a relationship. for several reasons: common sentiment is that such things are not the individual’s fault, other family members/SO’s tend to feel like the tragedy has also happened to them and therefor tend to be more empathetic, etc. when a parent (I include both b/c my ex husband gained forty pounds with my first pregnancy and I lost five. go figure)…….the sentiment is often that it is their own fault and that they could change it if they wanted to. nevermind the fact that there are a million reasons that we all know (except saint) that make that shit difficult and sometimes insurmountable at the time. anyway, that’s my .02. in a perfect world……..lol
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it does really make you think the guy is something special. i mean he probably never ever leaves his crap lying around the house, never shouts, and cares about when you do stuff.
whoa. i gotta stop comparing other people’s lives to my own…
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Maria, you always make me laugh or make me think. That is love, they both look so happy. The tsunami thing had me in tears though. I couldn’t choose, I would hold on to both and hope for the best.
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Beautiful. Just beautiful.
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